As I said upthread, I use a 2" receiver. What I didn't say, but will now, is that I would never, under any circumstances on any car use a 1-1/4" one. That seems to be an invitation for disaster. And for what? It makes no sense to me that they even offer those things.
For what it is worth, my two vehicles right now are a Honda odyssey and a Prius V. I've no concern about tongue weights with either, and I installed both hitches myself, about two hours each time. The hitch on the Prius V is a Torklift Stealth hitch, and is completely hidden from view except for the receiver.
I also think the message from this thread is that we all have experience and preferences to share, what works for one, may not be the right choice for another. Get whatever you think will cause you the fewer excuses not to ride!